By Nikita Jhanglani
Resistance is loyalty to the old and prevents development. Every expectation is thus linked to something already known. Only what shakes me to the core leads me onward. The rigidity breaks, growth follows. In the end, we can only marvel at where we find ourselves.
~ Bert Hellinger (founder, Systemic Constellation Therapy)
Haven’t we all heard how we’ve taken after our parents or grandparents or some relative in different ways—the way we look, talk, or the way we react to things.
But is this all that we inherit from our ancestors? Believe me, there is more. Looks like we unconsciously inherit a lot from them that shapes our beliefs, habits and lifestyle.
Bonds of Guilt
A had a prosperous business. He, however, couldn’t enjoy the luxury that came with his hard-earned wealth. A chance meeting with a Family Constellation Therapist lead him to realize how the depth of his bond with his late grandfather subconsciously stopped him from splurging on things other than his basic necessities.
A’s grandfather had seen poverty all his life, unable to enjoy the luxuries and comforts that A could now afford. According to his therapist, A’s love for his grandfather connected them so deeply, that now, A subconsciously held himself back from enjoying what his grandfather couldn’t. The therapist helped A disconnect from this guilt.
Family Patterns Become Barriers
Hitesh Vashisht, accomplished Consciousness Coach and Workshop Leader from Gurgaon, says, “Family Constellation is an insightful way to get aware of all the family drawn patterns that act as a barrier in our evolution.”
Family Constellation, a branch of the Systemic Constellation therapy, studies an individual as part of a larger group such as a family or an organization. It focuses the way they relate with their immediate family members. As humans, we inherit certain patterns from our ancestors, related to health, wealth, relationship, or lifestyle issues. These traits could lead us into unhappy situations with our family members without us understanding the underlying cause.
B shared a troubled relationship with her siblings. They argued everyday about everything. This disturbed B so much that she was often unable to sleep. Headaches became her constant companion. Lack of sleep led to stress and affected her performance at work.
When she heard about Family Constellation, she agreed to give it a shot hoping it was the ray of hope she’d been waiting for.
B enrolled for a session.
With the help of representatives (people or objects) standing in for herself and her siblings and their energies, and a long interview with the Family Constellation therapist, B got an otherwise unseen insight into her siblings’ perspectives. This opened her eyes to their feelings and her own patterns of behavior. This helped B mend her relationship with her siblings. Today, B experiences a stronger connect with them.
“Family Constellation helps the subject have a holistic look towards a situation or challenge, keeping in view the involved parties or factors of influence,” explains Vashisht.
We can’t choose our families but we can choose how we relate to them. If fights and feuds are your family norm, use Family Constellation Therapy to get straight to the heart of the matter. You’ll be amazed at what lies beneath the surface. Let Thriive connect you to a trained and verified therapist. Know more: http://beta.thriive.in/thriive-seeker
Nikita Jhanglani is a technical and creative content writer, editor and book blogger. Currently, she is into world domination, one checklist at a time.