What has mindfulness got to do with intimacy?
Mindfulness is not just a practice, it’s a state of mind and it keeps you where you are needed, RIGHT HERE! A relationship is all about concentration and being in the moment and hence mindfulness makes a big deal of impact to create the foundation of an intimate relationship. It has been improving the way we live our life professionally and socially. Similarly, maintaining an intimate relationship is a state of mind and it has its intricacies and way. A healthy and happy mind is definitely at ease to keep the relationship healthy and tuned.
What is mindfulness? A very theoretical answer to this question is to bring the attention of an individual concentrated in one place, on one thing. Though we usually connect mindfulness to a state of self-awareness or spirituality even in day-to-day life, mindfulness plays its part in almost everything. Now, all we want in a relationship is the feeling of having someone who is there to hear you out, to understand you, to be your partner. And if you don’t feel that security it may get in the way of a happy relationship.
We as humans have the tendency to expect, especially from the ones we love. We want their full attention and time, nonetheless, it becomes very difficult in a world like this where stress rules and a concentrated mind is what everyone is seeking.
It is of utmost importance that the mind and soul give the attention to your partner that they are asking for. With a mind that is hustling with the fast pacing world, attaining a sense of waking up and feeling the fullness of each moment is very difficult. So, you need to calm down and relax and let it come through as it is and deal with one by one. Here comes mindfulness to the rescue bringing in the attention and calmness you need to tackle any situation and keep your peace of mind intact.
Now, let’s start with the effects of mindfulness on an individual because no matter what we do, we are a reflection of what we feel. If a person is full and content they will feel the need to keep the surroundings like that. Mindfulness helps an individual in many forms but the most is to create an atmosphere of clarity and awareness towards their own self. Once you know who you are and what you want it becomes easier on our expectations from others and especially our partners. Becoming clear and vocal about what you need and what are you really expecting in a relationship can ease it down to better understandings.
People who love themselves are always clear about what they want from their life and even from their partners. The clarity alone can make a huge difference and help two individuals get closer. Intimacy is all about the closeness you share with your partner and once you are able to make that space a comfortable, trustworthy and nurturing one there is no chance of falling back because isn’t that what we all are looking for. Love and intimacy are the by-products of a healthy, trustworthy relationship which is a result of a true, calm mind that knows what it is doing and asking for.
Komal Patil is a business management graduate finding purpose through words, writing stories and poems.