When you empower yourself with Rebirthing Breathwork, you also empower your kids
Parenting is one of the most pleasurable and challenging tasks we humans face. All parents love their children and do their best for their children. But it is also a known and accepted fact that most parent-child relationships are damaged. Just as remarkable progress in different fields has happened due to conscious efforts to improve, so the same needs to happen with Parenting.
We need to bring in more ‘awareness’ as all the parent-child relationship damage is not because of a lack of love. It is because of lack of awareness.
Why parenting history repeats itself
Usually, adults adopt the same parenting style that they were brought up in. Or sometimes, they may adopt a parenting style which is completely opposite.
Most of the parenting, however, done today is fear-based and not love-based. We are scared of anything bad happening to them and want to protect them. When we are scared and operate from that, we pass on our fears to them. A lot
Let’s face it, the fears are going to be there, but we need to acknowledge them and act out of Love; And that is what will help the child. We need to heal ourselves by looking into our past, otherwise, it controls us. This is why it is said- HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF.
Parenting – a healing and empowerment opportunity
This journey is also challenging because the child is full of energy and he will bring to you all the challenges you need to learn from. He will bring up all your unhealed stuff (that is if you see). This Alive Being will challenge your parenting style. All this unhealed stuff is in our Unconscious, which makes up 90-95% of us. When we are able to see this,
Kahlil Gibran says – “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you yet they belong not to you.”
The parents are a huge influence on the child as the child starts perceiving itself through their eyes. So, if the parents reject the child in any way — for being a girl/being dark/by not having time for the child (which the child perceives as rejection) — the child will carry this deep wound of Rejection for life.
This child may grow up trying to please the parents (and later others) to receive their love; deep inside he or she will feel deep shame and rejection.
We can empower our children only when we become aware of our own pain and heal it. Some of the suppressed pain could be from our own birth trauma or our needs remaining unmet when we were children.
Given below are two case studies that show how by healing their own pain, the parents helped their children’s empowerment.
Healing our own birth trauma
In some cases, the birth of their child triggers the birth trauma of the parents’ themselves, particularly the mother. The post-partum depression is all this unhealed stuff coming up inside of ourselves. Healing our own birth trauma helps not just us but our own child too.
CASE STUDY – Mother was having difficult and prolonged labour due to which the child passed stools just before being born. The child was put in the NICU for observation. He had swallowed a bit of it and the doctors were scared that he would develop a chest infection. After a week spent in NICU, the child was back home. But bonding was a problem as he just wouldn’t latch on and take the feed from the mother. A session was done with the mother (REBIRTHING BREATHWORK). In this session, she connected to her own birth memory when she (as the child) was in 40-hour labour. The feeling she had carried at the time was – I WON’T BE ABLE TO DO IT and this got triggered with the birthing of her own child. With her releasing this trauma, the child started to bond very well with the mother and completely recovered.
Healing our Inner Child
Our own journey as children affects our parenting journey in a big way. The journey from the womb where we are one with the mother into adulthood, is one of growth, independence, and separation at various levels. At each of these stages, the child has various needs which need to be met by the parents and also a certain separation and independence which the parents need to allow and encourage.
When our needs are unmet as children, we will get triggered (irritated/ anxious) when our children have those needs.
CASE STUDY– A six-year-old girl child was brought to me with separation anxiety. Till this age, she would be anxious from the previous night about going to school and would refuse to sit in the school if her mother didn’t stay out waiting for her. The mother was irritated with this child, not knowing what to do. In further case taking, the mother revealed that she couldn’t make any decisions for herself (CODEPENDENCE) – something as simple as buying something small for herself was difficult alone. With INNER CHILD HEALING and BREATHWORK, she could release her own traumas and heal this co-dependence issue, which helped her daughter in a big way. It changed her life and her mother’s in a big way. The child has grown up and is an Entrepreneur now.
We carry our past as memories in our cells. Breathwork is a very effective tool to heal ourselves as the breath has all these memories encoded in it. By healing ourselves we heal our children and empower them so they can fulfil their complete potential.
About Dr. Preeti Kohli
Dr. Preeti Kohli was introduced to meditation and mindfulness at a very young age. She
has been a consulting homeopathic physician for over 15 years. Her passion for healing
through an understanding of one’s mind-body-spirit has led her to bridge the gap
between medication and meditation. Through her knowledge and practices, she has
healed over a thousand patients. She is also a co-founder of The Aha Movement. We are proud to have her on board as a Thriive-verified Wellness Coach. You can connect with her here: https://www.thriive.in/therapist/dr-preeti-kohli