Studying our shadow self reveals inner blocks and conflicts that dim our true light By Nikita Jhanglani
For the last five years, G has had a very troubled work life because of her aggressive and authoritative boss. She feels diminished, unimportant, and disrespected. One night, G has a dream in which she sees herself in a time many centuries ago, as a man who is the leader of a group. He is very aggressive, negative, authoritative, and doesn’t treat his people right. When she wakes up she is shocked to realise that she had been behaving exactly like the boss she so despises.
Getting her dream interpreted made G realise that she herself was attracting the aggressiveness from her boss and earlier, from her father, on account of her own behaviour in a past lifetime. This was in accordance with the Law of Resonance (two things that are alike will resonate with each other).
This incident was related to us by Prof. Kaya, who is a global expert on Dreams, Signs & Symbolic Language, as an example of how knowing one’s shadow self can help us overcome challenges in our life.
We’re very intrigued to know more about the shadow self and we’re thrilled when Prof. Kaya agreed to throw more light on this very interesting subject.
What is our shadow self?
We may practice positive affirmations several times over, but sometimes, a negative situation gets the better of us. More often than not, we push ourselves to look at the positive to not let the negative affect us.
Think of a child excessively pampered by its family. She becomes so used to getting only positive adulation that she cannot deal with a ‘no’. She becomes capricious and cannot handle rejections.
Similarly, when we condition ourselves to look at only the positive, we cannot deal with the negative—we forget that the world is made of positives and negatives.
Our shadow self is the negative part in us that we need to transform so that we can reach happiness and enlightenment.
Ignoring or not acknowledging the shadow self leads to becoming over-positive. This is a trait that the spiritually-inclined often indulge in and can lead to depression.
Coming face to face with our shadow self
To visit our shadow self, we need to study our behaviour with regards to the things that disturb us. This helps us to find the lessons hidden in our emotional suffering and transform them into awareness. And knowing what makes us sad and suffer emotionally, we are better able to change our behaviour to one that will bring us happiness at a deeper level.
Going back to G, the aggressiveness from her boss disturbed her work life. But she investigated and asked questions about his past life. She learnt that his aggression stemmed from his childhood. He had grown up in great poverty and had to face a lot of difficulties. He didn’t want his company to be in the same situation, poor and without funds, so he became authoritative and aggressive, in the belief that it would work in favour of the company and the employees.
G began working on being compassionate towards her boss and other difficult situations at work. She did not need to go out of her way to show her goodwill. Being neutral and detached about his outbursts served the purpose. In this way, she maintained a positive outlook but at the same time, addressed the negative energies and emotions within her as well as those reflected by others. And, this brought her a wholesome solution to her problems.
Not facing the darkness within us, it can become a huge roadblock in our emotional progress. Facing our shadow self can trigger great release and freedom. Working together with a trained life coach or dream analyst can help. Connect with Thriive to find verified therapists who are just right for you: http://beta.thriive.in/thriive-wsp
About Professor Kaya:
Professor Kaya is a best-selling author and international speaker. His notable work includes Dictionary Dreams-Signs-Symbols and The Source Code. A global expert on Dreams, Signs & Symbolic Language, he co-founded with his wife Christiane, the University / City Mikaël (UCM) that is established in several countries of the Americas, Europe and Asia. UCM is recognized by the Government of Quebec, Canada and Switzerland. It also holds a scholarship from Google.
Nikita Jhanglani is a technical and creative content writer, editor and book blogger. Currently, she is into world domination, one checklist at a time.