1 Dec, 2020
Almost all of us are habituated to reading newspapers in the morning. There is a section for the daily horoscope. After waking up in the morning, as soon as possible, before you might get your hands on any other information, ask someone to read your horoscope (not aloud), and then ask that person if the reading is positive or negative. If the reading is positive, ask the person to read it aloud for you, and if it is a negative reading, let it be, do not dwell on it. If you were told that the reading is negative, go through the reading at the end of the day to see if your day really was as negative as it was written. Horoscope is a concept of Astrology, which is a completely separate topic, and I am not going to get into the nitty-gritty of that. What I am getting at through this post is the psychological concept of self-fulfilling prophecy, wherein an individual acts in a particular manner so as to prove certain statements to be true; but more often than not, this is done unconsciously. The reason I am asking to read the horoscope in the morning is because, during that time, the mind is fresh and more receptive to information. Since your horoscope is a personal message, it is very likely to play at the back of your mind throughout the day, thus, making very subtle influences on your thoughts and actions; in other words, you unconsciously make attempts to make what you read in the horoscope to come true in some form or another. So, after hearing a positive horoscope reading, you are more likely to work towards making a good day. It is possible that your horoscope had predicted an awesome day for you, and you might not have had one, but if you reflect upon that particular day, you are very likely to notice that it wasn’t a bad day either. For those days when the readings are negative, you would notice that your day did not go as bad as it was mentioned in the horoscope. This is because your mind was not influenced by negative information.
Horoscope is a very good analogy for compliments and criticisms, just like positive and negative horoscope readings, words keeps playing at the back of the mind. Immediately after you are complimented or criticized, especially by someone who is significant in your life, be it your parents, siblings, best friend, or partner, you respond in a particular manner and the moment passes away. But very often those words actually continue to play in your subconscious and unconscious mind, and you are made to ponder, “Am I really like that?” Which more often than not transforms into, “What if I really am like that?” And finally, it shows subtle reflections through your actions. Similarly, our words have power over others and we should always choose our words wisely because words once spoken cannot be taken back. Similarly, we should not take negative criticism of others at face value in order to have a positive outlook on life.
Amaresh Nath is a Counsellor, Psychologist and a Life Coach.