Pouring more tea into a cup that’s filled is a sure case of insanity. Throwing away your affections on someone who doesn’t respond is also insanity. We met Natalie Matos, Singer, Song Writer & Reiki Master, to understand how one can stop this unhealthy behavior.
Relationships are beautiful and important. What we often forget about the most important one – the one with our self. And if any other relationship becomes demanding enough to make us put this relationship on the backseat, we must know when to move on.
Know when a relationship becomes selfish
It begins with a pattern: where we give to a relationship, people think we are great, they give back, and we feel good about ourselves—which is a great thing. But when we begin giving more and more without getting anything back, we only end up draining ourselves and feeling worthless.
Burn old bridges
Make self-care a priority
Self-love is not selfish love
If you keep pouring tea in a cup, without drinking from it, the tea eventually spills out and is wasted. It is the same when we pour our affections into a relationship that doesn’t give us back anything. Similarly, we cannot pour tea from an empty cup. Which is why self-care is important. Sharing from an empty cup is as insane as over filling one. Once our cups are full, and we find the balance of giving equally to ourselves as well as others, through the law of attraction, we attract more people into our life who give as much as they receive. Selfish relationships disappear from our lives—or better, transform to more giving relationships—and we move on to a newer, happier, and more sustainable way of being.
About Natali Matos
Nikita Jhanglani is a technical and creative content writer, editor and book blogger. Currently, she is into world domination, one checklist at a time.