Gandhi Jayanti: “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Life is not a cakewalk and often we come across hurdles that leave us emotionally wounded. Most of the time, these hurdles come in the form of people or trusted allies. However, they leave our cups sourer than sweeter making our outlook towards life more pessimistic.
Such bitter experiences garner anger, hatred and other unpleasant emotions for the circumstances or for the person who left us in emotional turmoil. Then there are times when we are the ones to spill the rotten beans and hurt others or hurt ourselves. These actions also elicit the same response as getting hurt by others.
For our long-term emotional well-being, it is incredibly important to process such feelings and emotions. One of the techniques to do so is forgiveness meditation. Let’s take a brief look at this amazing form of meditation.
How does it help?
Releases you from the past: To harbour negative emotions, we have to keep the vessel that carries these emotions as well. And oftentimes, we carry these emotions in our bowl of unpleasant past memories. Hence, our grudges for people and the circumstances are a strong chord that anchors us to the past. When you forgive yourself or others then you cut that chord, setting yourself free. Your focus will be redirected towards your future and your present making your life happier and livelier.
The first step towards healing: Healing requires acceptance and forgiveness is anchored on the act of acceptance. Once you recognize your own wounds and past and accept it, you are closer to finding the solutions to process the past wounds. After all, you can’t figure out the solution before seeing the problem itself.
Gives you more freedom: When you get rid of the toxic emotions your energy blocks are eliminated too. Hence, when your mental space is no longer occupied with past incidents you have more mind-space for newer things. This gives you more freedom to entertain new experiences in your life.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” —Mahatma Gandhi
How to practice forgiveness meditation
There are three primary directions to keep in mind when you start forgiveness meditation. These directions will guide you to direct your thoughts.
- Asking for forgiveness from others: Start with seeking forgiveness for your own misdeeds. Meditate on the thoughts that come to your mind when you decided to take a step that ended up hurting somebody. Accept your actions and ask for forgiveness to start with this practice.
- Forgiving yourself: Whether you have made the wrong choices or put yourself in situations that left you bitter, forgive yourself for all such decisions. Promise yourself that no matter what you will practice self-love and recognize your self-worth. This practice is a strong way to cultivate deeper self-awareness and develop stronger self-esteem.
- Forgiving others: This might look like the most difficult of the lot as you will have all the reasons in the world for being angry with some people. However, forgiving others will bring you a lot of peace. Instead of thinking of all the loss and bitter feelings just start making peace with whatever has happened and gone. Remind yourself that you can’t fix the past nor can you fix other people and holding onto anything will only cause you more pain.
People often forget that getting hurt is a part and parcel of life. Diamonds never shine without going into the fire and the same goes for human beings too. Without pain, we never develop empathy. Our depth is directly correspondent to the pain that we can process.
Forgiveness is one way to develop this depth and reconstruct and rebuild ourselves stronger. Every time we do this, we get stronger. And it’s only through this strength it is that we can truly love and open our hearts. So, for all of us who are holding onto past grudges, let’s take a moment every day to heal ourselves with forgiveness meditation.
Komal Patil is a business management graduate finding purpose through words, writing stories and poems.