There is no way to reverse the pain caused by the loss of someone loved and close to your heart. It is immensely sad and a life-changing experience when someone who spent the days and memories with you leaves this earthly body and moves further towards the light. As I said, there is no going back from such situation because to overcome such a big loss you have to move forward and deal with the harsh reality of life. Grief turns in very slowly and quietly without you even noticing and is very hard to tackle away. It takes many faces like
But you have to understand that loss is natural and it is not there to stay. It will pass and a better tomorrow will arise, for better things. Nobody can replace a loved one but acceptance can make you live this life at peace and in harmony with your inner self. You will not believe the power a positive thought carries with itself and energizes everyone touching it. So, collect yourself and sit down with all your emotions. Try to contemplate what you really feel and give it time, let it rise, accept it and then let go of it. There are many ways to rejuvenate sadness but meditation has been proved to work wonders. Though there is no way to let the pain pass easily, Vipassana meditation can help you lead your mind to better things and accept the circle of life. It disconnects you from the world only to make you connected with yourself.
What is Vipassana and how it can help?
Vipassana is a practice said to be practiced by Buddha himself. The closest meaning to which, has come out to be an Insightful meditation. The whole idea of meditation is introspection and Vipassana sets you for that. A basic course of Vipassana meditation is a 10-day course with a few rules and regulations including no communication, so you can’t talk to anyone verbally or non-verbally even writing and reading is not allowed. While practicing Vipassana you get to meditate for hours and follow a satavik diet.
These rules and regulations intensify the whole process and many practitioners go through emotional and mental ups and downs in these 10 days. A lot of them feel like running away on the 3rd or 4th day but keeping the promise of going on for 10 days pushes them to the glorious light they are about to encounter. It is like an experience only if you are dedicated enough because you only get what you come seeking. Meditation, in general, brings a sense of calm and improves blood pressure that helps you to let emotions flow freely in you. But Vipassana is the type of meditation that requires full attention and will to affect you mentally more than physically. You have to be true to the word and practice all the mediations done in a day with full focus and faith.
It sure sounds like an excellent experience but once you are there all kinds of emotions come to the surface and you might feel things you have never imagined you could feel. Vipassana stirs the innermost emotions in you and puts you into the light of introspection. It makes you ask questions to yourself and try to face all your fears, all your dilemmas and all your loses.
When you go this deep inside yourself, you realize the ultimate goal of your life, you realize how life goes on and how there is nothing to gain or lose in this world. Cherish it while you have it and let it go when its time comes. Nature is the supreme power; it is around you, inside you, it is you. You can’t fail it exactly like it won’t fail you.
It’s very easy to fall back in your regular life once you are back but maintaining a practice is possible. It won’t be easy; in fact, it might have to be the most difficult thing you have would have to do in your life but it is possible. Life is not certain and anything can happen anytime, we are never prepared to lose someone dear to us but nature rules it all and we work accordingly. All we can do is keep our calm and accept what life serves us.
Shivani Mehra is a budding author and a hopeless poet, a learning enthusiast and a dreamer who believes her dreams come true through writing.